New Delhi5 hours agoAuthor: Sanjeev Kumar
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On November 21, a 16-year-old teenager brutally murdered a boy just one year older than him to rob him of just Rs 350 in the Welcome area of Delhi at night.
This minor strangulated the 17 year old boy when he protested against the snatching of money, and then stabbed him more than 50 times with a knife. This boy did not stop here but was dancing along with attacking the dead body.
Similarly, in Faridabad, Haryana, on May 31, a girl killed her 12-year-old brother when he did not give her a mobile phone for playing. The girl is a class 10 student, while her only brother studied in class five.
During interrogation, it was revealed that the minor sister felt that the parents loved the son more, whereas they did not love her. Therefore only his brother gets the mobile to play games. The girl’s parents work in different companies in Faridabad.
These two cases show to what extent the desire to fulfill one’s own desires is dominating the minds of teenage children. The question arises whether the parents are failing in the upbringing of the child or the use of mobile phones and the environment related to it is making the teenagers mentally aggressive, selfish and insensitive.
Mistakes that make you insist on getting your point across
Sociologist Professor BS Nigam from America told Bhaskar that as soon as children reach adolescence, they feel that they have grown up and can take every decision on their own.
At this age, children also go through physical and mental changes and differences between parents. Children used to listen to their parents. Parents and children knew how to be patient.
Both parents and children are connected to technology. This technology has eliminated age-related issues and sensitivities, the effect of which is visible in the social environment and behaviour.
Teenagers take the biggest risks with life
According to Psychology Today, teenagers take the biggest risks in life to establish their identity and connect with society. But the danger is greater when they feel alone. They do not communicate with their parents and the right people, nor are they able to differentiate between right and wrong.
Adolescent loneliness and isolation must be understood
‘I don’t care about anyone…’ Teenagers are often seen talking to their parents in this tone. If a teenager keeps saying this, then it is important to understand the depression growing inside him due to loneliness and frustration, for which the parents should have time for the child and their mutual relationship should also be good.
Taking help of family architect in America
A company in America, Cognition Builders, is creating AI based ‘Family Architects’. These architects keep an eye on the family day and night through special security cameras ‘Nest Cams’, listen and watch the conversations of the family, send messages about the mistakes of the parents and even forcefully stop them in case of any mistake.
This machine watches the footage of the family every day. It also tells what kind of improvements are needed between the parents and the child. This service is expensive where one has to spend Rs 10,000 per hour. But this gives scope for the entire family to correct their mistakes.
Child care specialist Dr. Promila Bhutani and Dr. Ranjan Bhattacharya have given some tips from time to time regarding the upbringing of teenagers…
Prefer company with friends more than parents
Dr. Bhutani says that when a child reaches adolescence, there is a fear that every conversation he has with his parents will turn into an argument. At this time, children like the company of their friends more than their family or parents. It is important for parents to identify their children’s friends.
make relationships healthy
Dr. Ranjan says that you should focus on maintaining a healthy relationship with your teenage child. If the relationship between parent and teenager is cordial then they will think or talk several times before taking any wrong step and will find a solution to the problem.
It is important to understand the personality of the child
Dr. Bhutani says that it is the responsibility of the parents to understand the personality of the child. This will help the child to grow and become sensitive. The child will become responsible and a good parent in the future.
Keep an eye on child’s behavior
Harmony between rules, strictness and friendship at home
To maintain discipline and good parenting at home, it is important to have some house rules. Don’t apply rules like law to children. By recognizing the time and situation, sometimes the rules can be changed which will give the child a feeling of happiness and belonging.
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