It is necessary to work on low self-esteem and self-dislike, as the ability to build healthy connections with the world and other people depends on this. Psychologist Philip Litvinenko spoke about this on Friday, May 6, in an interview with Channel Five.
According to him, many adults have such difficulties, because they did not have enough love from their parents in childhood.
“We get the very first experience of love precisely from our parents, and if for some reason we are not loved, then we feel unloved, we broadcast this to the world, and, accordingly, the people around us dislike us,” Litvinenko said.
However, parents should not be blamed for this, this will not help to correct the situation in any way, but will only aggravate anger and vulnerability, the expert emphasized. He noted that in their childhood, parents could also receive less attention, because they loved their children the way they themselves knew how.
According to the psychologist, the first step on the path of self-love is the ability to track internal dialogue with oneself. A person who does not love himself in any internal dialogue will come to one thing – all troubles happen because he is not good enough and does not deserve better, the specialist emphasized.
“We need to track this internal dialogue and start correcting it so that it becomes positive and supportive. This will already start the process of restoring self-love,” Litvinenko stressed.
On April 14, psychologist Jennifer Gregg named a way to get rid of obsessive thoughts. According to her, with obsessive thoughts, you need to move away from them, perceive them separately from your personality and watch them.